You parent the way you were parented — edited
Nobody runs their parents’ parenting exactly; everyone runs a modified version — the parts they kept without noticing, and the parts they over-corrected.
The trigger tells the truth
The moments you are least proud of as a parent are not character; they are pattern. The escalation that came from nowhere usually came from 1987.
Breaking inheritance
You can’t delete a pattern, but you can interrupt it. Name the trigger, delay the response by one breath, and choose the counter-move. Your child then inherits the interruption instead of the pattern.
The One Action: Notice, the next time you “lose it” as a parent: what exact phrase did you hear growing up?